Anger
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COPING WITH A CHRONIC ILLNESS
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| Strategies For Patients
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You never fully appreciated your health until you had to face the fact you now have an illness that is not going away. You feel angry and depressed. It is hard to get beyond the question "Why me?" How can you learn to
cope more successfully with your condition?
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Effects of Chronic Illness
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| Chronic illnesses such as diabetes, heart disease, arthritis or kidney disease cannot, as yet, be cured. However, they can often be
controlled with carefully followed dietary, exercise and medication regiments. Once past the shock and despair, people with chronic illnesses often find that their condition requires that they live healthier, more
health-conscious lives.
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| People commonly work through what Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross has identified as the five stages of adjustment as they learn to accept a chronic
illness. There are feelings of grief, powerlessness, and fear.
This is natural as you move through the stages. There is no fixed time schedule for your passage
through the stages of adjustment, and many times the stages overlap.
This means you won't be able to say, "Now I'm done with depression; next, I'm going
to do bargaining." Sometimes you may feel you are experiencing several of the
stages at once. This, too, is a normal part of one's progress towards the final
stage of acceptance.
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The Five Stages of Acceptance
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| 1. Denial
You are not ready to deal with the loss of your good health, so you deny your illness. You may feel that the doctor got the wrong lab report. You deny the seriousness of the condition; you're not going to let it concern you. This denial can take a dangerously defiant form. Statements like, "I'm going to eat, exercise and take or not take my medications just as I please!" mustn't become rules of behavior. Teenage diabetics are often great deniers of their condition and can get themselves into serious trouble if adults do not intervene.
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| 2. Anger
You're mad at everything and everyone. "I've paid my dues, had my yearly checkups, and went to church on Sundays. It isn't fair!" People around you seem to go on as if your problem doesn't exist, and that makes you mad. Or, worse yet, they hover around you, telling you how to live your life, acting as if you already have one foot in the grave. If you stay in this stage, you'll become bitter, and people will begin to avoid you.
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| 3. Depression
The problem really hits you. You cry, feel sorry for yourself and generally give up. You find no joy in anything. Sorrow can lead to depression and hopelessness. These feelings can become self-destructive.
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| 4. Bargaining
You make a last attempt at reaching a compromise with reality. "If I only overeat on weekends, that won't be too bad." "If I give more to charity, I won't have another heart attack." The danger of remaining in this stage is due to the fact that chronic illnesses don't make deals and don't accept bribes.
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| 5. Acceptance
Having gone through the previous four stages, you now accept your illness as part of your self, a reality to be lived with, not escaped. You recognize that your best chance for future happiness lies in your understanding of your condition, and your disciplined commitment to its control.
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When To Seek Help
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| If you find yourself stuck in any stage before acceptance, you can benefit from professional
help. And, after acceptance comes, such help is still valuable. Find a counselor who will respect your wishes and work with you as a partner. Join a support group. Take care of yourself. You can begin to
take control of your illness instead of letting it control you.
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